Infertile Dads/Soon-to-be Dads That Still Care and Provide

im also very proud to officaly be able join this group!!!

just got dischardged from the hospital after getting my vasectomy. Wife has plans for the weekedn so i get to game all day and move the steam deck into the bedroom.! I know some people dont think getting a vasectomy counts as being infertle from birth but i think some people know situtations so its all ok in the end and makes sense to be the considered the same.

I carry grief quietly, because infertility is an invisible loss. There’s no game over screen, just a long campaign of hope, disappointment, and learning how to redefine success. I’m still playing—not because I expect an easy ending, but because meaning can exist even when the story doesn’t go as planned.

finally a place for people like us. if possible I would like to share my storey:

I’m a gamer who knows what it’s like to grind for something that never drops. Infertility is the part of my life without a tutorial, a checkpoint, or a clear win condition. While games give me worlds where effort leads to progress, real life has taught me that some battles don’t reward persistence the way we expect.

Gaming became my refuge during appointments, waiting rooms, and conversations that ended in silence. In games, I can build families, save worlds, and rewrite endings—things I don’t always get to do in reality. But logging off doesn’t erase the ache of wanting a future that looks different than the one unfolding.